tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.comments2023-11-03T09:34:09.373-04:00Building Cathedrals:Juris Materhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01717212659724234395noreply@blogger.comBlogger6355125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.post-57736816866961356092015-04-18T19:07:27.561-04:002015-04-18T19:07:27.561-04:00What a beautiful family! I am so glad to hear you...What a beautiful family! I am so glad to hear your "voice"- and hope you will each find time to drop in and let us know what you are learning. This blog has been a blessing to me and many others!Donnahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14441607585776350586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.post-31401344403074819232015-04-09T02:17:54.584-04:002015-04-09T02:17:54.584-04:00Beautiful family!!Beautiful family!!Maryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10107493541860967018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.post-69541787609668682392014-10-15T12:02:00.331-04:002014-10-15T12:02:00.331-04:00As another poster said women have likely used carr...As another poster said women have likely used carriers as long as they have had babies. If you look at the animal kingdom, animal either have young that can support their own weight while riding on mom ( think primates) mom has a built in carrying system ( kangaroos, spiders, otters etc) or the animals are born with the ability to walk on their own to keep pace with mom within days of birth ( horses, dogs, deer, cow, cats, elephants, turtles, frogs, squirrels, etc) <br />So in the greater scheme of things, humans who use carriers are imitating animals practices and have been doing so since the dawn of time.<br /><br />Also, your argument is sonewhat perposturous, no one debated the naturalness of an action in early human history because there was only one way, the instinctual way , and everyone did itA.Deetzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00015224340101044696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.post-53423944965644289902014-10-15T11:40:52.721-04:002014-10-15T11:40:52.721-04:00Perfectly said!
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Computers should never replace real tangible books!LICE REMOVALhttp://killhairlice.com/head-lice-removal/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.post-48452913058387540052010-09-11T02:37:23.148-04:002010-09-11T02:37:23.148-04:00Acai berries, a dark purple fruit, are usually fou...Acai berries, a dark purple fruit, are usually found fresh from Central American countries. Most that are exported in other countries, especially in the US, come from Peru and Brazil. At the same time, these fresh berries were initially used for ice cream flavors and liqueurs.Lose Weight Fasthttp://www.aboutfatburningfurnace.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.post-64358287820012114712010-06-20T21:15:18.701-04:002010-06-20T21:15:18.701-04:00The iPad and Kindle are great for traveling. Just ...The iPad and Kindle are great for traveling. Just toting around books (even paperbacks) can be so cumbersome at times. 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I've seen the commercials, but never the rap. So funny!! You know I can't wait to buy a Swagger Wagon?! Seriously. I can't wait.B-Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08889509365971309400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.post-32158582598845388412010-06-16T17:58:28.898-04:002010-06-16T17:58:28.898-04:00I don't think anyone was bashing big families,...I don't think anyone was bashing big families, especially considering most of those writing came from or have a big family themselves. Since that last comment changed the tone of this conversation a bit, I'm going to close comments. Thanks to all of you wonderful women for your honest and thought provoking comments.Right Said Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03000769740954672341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.post-87058886590393923522010-06-16T17:24:16.056-04:002010-06-16T17:24:16.056-04:00Instead of answering the question, it seems as tho...Instead of answering the question, it seems as though this is another big family bashing session. Our kids have chores and are required to help out because they are part of the family. We all have chores and then we all have fun. Small family kids burn out, too...on overinvolvement in sports, activities, pressure to excel, etc. <br /><br />We could also recognize that we would not even be debating this if we lived in a third world country. Survival would be your main concern, not arguing on the internet over who has the best size family.gretchenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10365243471292477873noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.post-47787690809776267032010-06-16T10:10:40.788-04:002010-06-16T10:10:40.788-04:00Can I just add that although many of the members h...Can I just add that although many of the members here are young mothers, not all of us have had the experience of getting married young and starting families in the early & mid 20s. I'm almost 44 and most of my friends got married in their late 20s and early 30s. My sister just got married at 35, and at 38 had her first child. <br /><br />We are called to "be open to life" and that may mean just 2 or 3 children in the span of our fertility. So much of this is really beyond our control. It is not for us to judge one another. God has a plan for each of us, for some it may mean a large family, for others it may mean a smaller one.JMBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02542004362101344466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.post-53548666675071717302010-06-16T09:42:55.864-04:002010-06-16T09:42:55.864-04:00Some thoughts:
I think this blog is at its best w...Some thoughts:<br /><br />I think this blog is at its best when it tackles issues like this head on. Great topic, great question!<br /><br />One of the arguments I hear most often against large families is that children of large families resent being in them. One hears this especially from the so-called "greatest generation" in which large families were the norm (and I hear this all the time from grandparents, in-laws, most of which are of Italian descent). They really seemed to hate it, and I take them at their word. So, obviously, having a large family CAN be a negative experience for many, many people.<br /><br />However, it clearly doesn't have to be, and this I think has to be with our evolving concept of family. My biggest worries about having a large family are mostly financial, though the concern about burn out is real too. I suppose it is less of a concern for me personally, for the following reason:<br /><br />(1) my husband and I try to be equal parents as much as possible. since he is the primary breadwinner I do more, but he does all that he can to help me and to be a great father. He spends an incredible amount of time with his children (even during the week), and he knows how to cook, clean, etc. He is awesome!!<br /><br />(2) I work part time and my kids go to school part time, so our lives are not completely ruled by what is going on in the home or by these domestic power structures. I think homeschooling is awesome, but its not for me, and I think that considerably lessons the pressure of burnout all members of our little family.<br /><br />(3) I don't try to be a supermom. I don't freak out if the house gets messy or if dinner is less than perfect. Nor do I expect my children to meet some ridiculous standard of perfection. We have rules and expectations, of course, but these are general guidelines, not unbreakable commands.<br /><br />(4) I choose my battles, with my kids and my husband. <br /><br />(5) For all my problems, I don't have control issues. I am happy to let others help me parent (including neighbors, family, friends), and to let my children be pretty independent. <br /><br />Obviously, I don't have much advice for the SAH mother of nine. But I think no matter what one's situation, the key thing to remember is that children deserve a childhood, and should not be made into young parents. Of course, they should have chores and learn to help, but they should also be free to be kids to a large extent! If one finds oneself in a situation where this is impossible, changes need to be implemented (and what those changes are will depend on the situation the family is in)! I think that earlier generations just didn't see burnout as an issue, and also had very different attitudes about the family and childhood. I also think that the older model was largely a failure, given how many people who came from that model completely reject it. At the same time, I just want to say that I know many big families from all backgrounds and arrangements (including those where the mother worked outside the home) that are really lovely and truly inspiring. There is no one way to do it, and no matter what it will take much prayer and grace....Jennifer Freynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.post-90259685818441604322010-06-15T16:27:51.094-04:002010-06-15T16:27:51.094-04:00I would like to second MaryAlice's suggestion ...I would like to second MaryAlice's suggestion that couples get spiritual direction and pray together and alone when making family planning decisions. Despite the best advice of friends, the decision to practice NFP is best left to the spouses and God. I have often found that well meaning friends/acquaintances can be particularly judgmental when discussing these issues. MargaretJDMom, I'm glad to know you have a good support system with friends you can trust! <br /><br />As for my use of the term providentialism, while a heated word, I felt its use justified because of the dismissive nature of several comments regarding NFP and "grave reasons." The NFP police seem to jump out of the woodwork anytime one mentions limiting family size as a possible solution to family difficulties. As if the abuse of NFP were the primary problem in our church today!?! <br /><br />There is a difference between openness to a large family and providentialism. The one is a discerned and prayerful decision, the other is a belief that the couple should not have any control in regards to their family planning. Obviously there are those who feel called to just be open at all times, and that is wonderful! There are others, who through no fault of their own, do not know NFP and so by default have as many children as their bodies will bear. But most modern American women have access to NFP, although they may refrain from learning it.<br /><br />I think in a developed nation like the US, with the advances we have in medical care, a VERY high percentage of women who marry young, and do no child spacing (other than breastfeeding) will wind up with very large families. Praise God that our medical care is amazing, as is our standard of living. Historically, and currently in developing nations, women gave birth to many babies who died. Large families were not as "easy" to come by from a medical perspective. It was a rare, rare thing. Nowadays, most women who marry young can physically have many children. Just because they physically can doesn't mean they should (my point here is that some discerning is involved). The emotional and spiritual health of the family is very important, and these reasons for practicing NFP shouldn't be so easily dismissed. <br /><br /><br />In sum, when we have the ability to make a decision with regard to family planning, and we choose to avoid that knowledge, or avoid applying that knowledge, we are in fact still making a decision. We are making a decision to not get on the life raft--and that raft may be the very thing God sent to help us out. <br /><br />And this relates to the original post on burnout because one possible answer to helping our children and ourselves avoid burnout is the practice of NFP. I didn't mean to get into an entire NFP discussion, but it is relevant to avoiding burnout.Right Said Redhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03000769740954672341noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4839413630623850301.post-8315606734084515752010-06-15T15:31:05.668-04:002010-06-15T15:31:05.668-04:00JDMom, I think that is some VERY good advice, both...JDMom, I think that is some VERY good advice, both about the NFP conversations and the mission and life of a family of any size. I would add one caveat...it is very easy to feel pressured to have another child or not based on the circumstancesor advice of your (well meaning) friends or faith community. Friends can be a help in discerning about these issues, but spiritual direction with a priest and prayer, together and alone, for both parents is crucial.Mary Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05245101141100590754noreply@blogger.com